Your reality is affected by the values & priorities you set in life.

Do you often give or get a reply like,"I am busy"? People often used that to mean "I have other priorities". It is not that one has "no time", unless if one is dead. Rather it is whatever time one has, had been preordained to serve one's priorities. Question is, are your priorities well valuated?

The top priorities in life namely moral and spiritual, health and image, intelligence and wisdom, family and friends, career and wealth, fame and influence - dictate the basis of valuation for what is or isn't important in life. From such, we would rank a particular task ahead of another. Believe it or not, our values and priorities also affect our perception of what is supposedly right or wrong.

Whatever circumstances you are experiencing now is a result of the many choices you made on what is suppose to be or not. This consequently puts you in a chain of situations which would have been otherwise had you not chosen this path. Retrace your course of actions and discover exactly how and why you went a certain way, then remedy from there if any. Unless one would be physically forced, one will always have freewill to choose a path of construction or destruction in life.

Your reality is affected by the way you chose to think

Do you know that the reality you are experiencing now is a result of a combination of your mind's critical thought processes? Whatever state of mind you are experiencing now is actually an outcome of your prudent or less choice of thought processes. Our minds are capable of several types of thought processes, each of which is best applied for specific circumstances.

The analytical process of thought is best utilized for logic thinking and is critical for efficient problem solving and wise decision making. This is sometimes referred to as "common sense". The instinctive process of thought utilizes the subconscious reflex and is best applied for mind and body motor coordination. The impulsive or urge process of thought utilizes passions and emotions, combines with the analytic and instinctive thoughts to create a mindset of your perceptive reality. People who were subjected to the same circumstances still came up with varied and contradictory opinions. For most, the impulsive and urge thinking processes often overrule all other thoughts and often had the final say on decision making. We often used "I want to", "I like to", "I love to" more than "I think so".

The phrase "follow your heart" is more an oxymoron than wisdom. Because emotions, passions, impulses and urges are not based on logic and are always variable as time, environment and other psychological stimuli, thoughts or decisions emanating from such processes are very unstable. It isn't human to ignore our emotions, passions and impulses, but if we allow these to become the determinant factor for our final decision making, almost always the choice will be a regrettable one. If the majority of one's critical decisions were derived at a time when one's thought processes were inclined toward passions, emotions, impulses and urges, there's no amusing if one would live a life in a mess.